15 February 2014

Being proud to be a blogger

Since that day my dad came home with a crappy old PC when no one could use the phone or call the landline because back then, only dial-up existed, I've always loved the Internet. I've always had my own little space somewhere in the online world - from creating my own "homepage" on Geocities and Angelfire, to a forum called Friends Boards (Ross&Rach4ever was my username), to LiveJournal and to the present day of my blog - I don't know whether it was a form of escapism or a creative outlet, but it's always just been something I've really enjoyed.

While I've always maintained a relatively good social life, I've never been the most outgoing person and maybe that's why I get enjoyment from talking online to people with shared interests. Perhaps it's more acceptable now, but back then, talking to people on the world wide web wasn't exactly the most conventional way of making friends and the Internet wasn't necessarily considered a hobby. For this reason, I always felt hesitant in sharing this part of my life with "real life" people and I was scared of my friends thinking I was weird, anti-social, a nerd or whatever. I didn't want to link my blog on my Instagram profile in fear of people finding it, but as I had more followers there, I wanted to promote it a little. I was terrified.

I've grown up a lot since then and I've learnt so much about life, myself and being happy. As I've probably mentioned a thousand times before, blogging is something that brings me a lot of joy into my life and one day, something sort of just clicked and I thought, 'How could I feel ashamed or embarrassed by something that makes me so happy?' So I kept my blog link on Instagram and when I made the decision to stop caring about what people think, I realised it was also the decision to accept myself for who I am and truly be me. When it comes to putting yourself out there on the Internet, of course it can be a little daunting and you will worry about what people think, but one of the best pieces of advice I've read is, "What people think about you is none of your business". My main worries used to be people thinking that I spend too much money and whether or not some my blog posts were too personal, but hey, if people think that, there's nothing I can do to control that and I'm not going to be a part of it because I choose to only surround myself with people who love and support me. My money is my money and sometimes I like writing more personal posts not only to express myself, but in the hopes that some of you may take something away from them.

When I finally started being more open with my blog and my real life friends began reading it, they only had positive things to say and that really melted my heart. One of my really good friends said my blog was amazing and how proud she is, which made me realise how truly blessed I am for the people in my life. I think when it comes to fear, we create it ourselves in our minds, but in reality, nothing is ever really that bad when you make the choice to let it go and overcome it. It feels really nice to actually talk about blogging in person and while I don't outright say to people, "I have a blog", if they happen to stumble upon it and like my blog, that's cool. And if they don't? That's cool too. The moment you stop concerning yourself with what other people think is the moment I can guarantee you'll be a lot happier. Just keep focusing on you.

In the past, I have always been worried about what kind of responses I'd get from people about my blog, but you know what? At the end of the day, if you enjoy it, you should feel like you want to share it with the people you love and if they don't understand it, that's their problem. You should embrace all those things you love in life and be someone who you're proud of. To find something that truly brings you happiness is so rare and whether it's blogging or not, you should keep doing that. While blogging is more accepted as a hobby these days (hell, it's even considered a job!), you should never feel like you need to hide something that makes you proud and happy. Through my countless hours spent online, I've made some incredible friends - some of who I've been lucky enough to meet and can call real life friends now. There's so many more of you who I'd like to meet too and go on massive shopping sprees with!

Not caring about what people think is easier said than done, but as I go on this journey called life and discover who I am and who I want to be, I've gained a lot more confidence in myself. From my taste in music, film, fashion, beauty and everything in between, the Internet has helped shape me as a person and as I've found a hobby I truly care about, I'm now proud of my little blog and to call myself a blogger.

28 comments:

  1. This is such a lovely post. I blogged for a few months having told nobody at all, I just didn't want my family or friends to know and I don't know why I didn't question 'why not' like you did! Blogging makes me really happy so I should have just shared it with people - I have now and the people I've told are very supportive of it. And you're right, if they like it then that's great, and if they don't then that doesn't matter! I recently did a presentation at school to my teacher about my blog and I was afraid of what she'd think - but she found it really interesting and that's why I want to be more proud of what I do and share it more like you have!

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  2. A perfect post. I needed to read these words.. Thank you♥ xo

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  3. It's definitely become a lot more acceptable to have a web presence these days, but even I have felt really self conscious about advertising my blog on Instagram. I haven't worked up the courage to post it on FB yet. I haven't even reaaaallly told most people in real life about it, and the ones I have, I don't think they realise how serious I am about it, or know much about blogging in general. It's so intimidating, but I'm glad you've had all good responses and feedback so far! I find it such a fun and inspiring outlet, I'm so glad I've started mine and it's so exciting getting to know everyone, particularly the Aussies! We will definitely have to try and meet up whenever we're next in the same city - I'm so sorry we didn't get to when you were in Sydney! I remember when I first found your LJ hahaha, I was so excited to finally find someone who had the same taste in music as me! And now it's the same with beauty, and I find it so exciting and interesting :)

    Yay for blogging slash the internet haha. Worth weeding out the creeps to find the genuine friends!

    BrodieJay.com

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  4. Well said. I’ve only very recently told my friends that I had a blog (and youtube which was a more cringey conversation that involved us all watching my videos together) and they had nothing but the nicest things to say. I had built up this idea in my head that it was really embarrassing, and that they would judge me for how much makeup I owned, but they didn’t. Because they are my friends. And I don’t know how I forgot that in the first place.

    Dejhana | Waite a Little

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    1. I'm so afraid of that! That people will say "oh, show me" and we'll have to watch/read it together :/

      I'm so happy you're at that point in your life where you're proud and happy. And honestly, there's nothing to be ashamed of. And if people are negative about a hobby that doesn't harm anyone then they are not worth having in your life.
      I've always been the same. I've had websites and frequent forums since I was 13. Haha. Lovely blog post, hun xx

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  5. I just want to say thanks so much for writing this post, I've had my blog for over half a year now and it is something I spend a lot of time over, but non of my friends know and I feel like I'm missing an oppotunity to put it out over my social medias, I'm definitely going to get over this after reading this as I shouldn't have to feel secretive over something that makes me so happy xx feeling inspired

    EmmiHearts

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  6. This post resonated with me so much, especially the fear part. I've always hesitated to start a blog because I was worried people at school would make fun of me if they knew, but when I actually started it I was in a place where I realized I didn't care and I wasn't going to hold back on the things that I loved just because I was worried about someone else's opinion. Now my blog link is on my instagram too and every one of my friends who has discovered it has had only encouragement for me, which is amazing and makes me wonder why I was ever so scared in the first place.
    xx
    Stephanie | Love, August

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  7. I'm really proud to be a blogger too & I'm happy for any of my friends to look at it. But after four years I still hide it from my family! I think it's probably because my mum would tell me off for how much money I waste & then make weird comments all the time. I used to have some lame Geocities websites (mainly with Pokemon fanfiction...) & wrote religiously in my LiveJournal. Back then I considered the Internet to be an escape for the socially awkward. You could talk to anyone in chat rooms or forums about geeky topics without judgement. Nowadays everyone & their aunt is on Facebook, it's so weird to see how it's changed over the years xx

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  8. This is actually really touching, I'm not sure if you intended to make us readers shed a tear but you have exceeded. I also find it hard to openly talk about my blog with my peers so much so that I rarely talk about it outside of my immediate family, but I'm starting to work on that and become the proud blogger I know I can be. Thank you for sharing your journey and you experience with us.

    xo.Janiecy.xo|A Beauty, Fashion & Lifestyle Blog

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  9. This is a lovely post and im so glad that you're proud to be a blogger, your blog is great!
    lunatheblog
    ellie x

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  10. This is so true! Getting your blog out there at first is scary! You should be proud of the hard work you put into your blog because others like me love reading it! Your hard work has definitely paid off! :) Eloise x

    happy-litle-heart.blogspot.co.uk

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  11. This is such a lovely post! You deserve to feel proud for what you have created and consistently provide to others! xx

    Celina | The Celution | Bloglovin’

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  12. Sweet post. Love the photo on top. Followed XO

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  13. I'm lucky to have parents who 'get' the online blogging thing. I don't think I'd still be blogging if they didn't encourage me!

    Vicky | teenbeautylover

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  14. A lovely post and gorgeous picture. I love blogging, it is the first thing I've really got into and stuck at since being 'grown up'. Pure passion

    http://stephellis531.blogspot.co.uk/ xx

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  15. This post is perfection...It's the boost of courage I needed, my friends and family still don't know about my blog xx

    Katie,
    beautyandkatie.blogspot.co.uk

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  16. I'm glad you're proud of your blog - you should be, it's fantastic! Normally I stay away from bloggers who write so much and I don't even follow many beauty bloggers, but I dunno what it is about your words, I just love reading your entire posts. Your words here are very relevant and honest, thanks for posting. x

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  17. Your blog post really resonated with me. Often times I'm afraid to share that I have my own beauty blog with new people I meet, or even family and friends who aren't connected with me online, for fear they'll think it's trivial or stupid. But you're so spot on - if something brings you joy, why be afraid to be open about it? Thanks for sharing! So much appreciate it.

    xo Glazed Over

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  18. This is amazing and so inspiring and SO what I needed. I feel the same about blogging, I realy love it and it really makes me happy, even though my blog is brand new. I feel like the time i spend working on it is special and I hope to one day add my blog link to my instagram profile without caring about what other people thing becuase you're right "what other people think is none of your business"! great take home!
    Vuyi
    xx

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  19. I can totally relate to absolutely everything you have said!
    x

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  20. What a lovely, lovely post! I used to, not hide, but.. Not share my blog with people in real life. But when I finally did it was surprising how supportive people can be! :)) I made a Facebook page for my blog and all my friends liked it, it was so nice! hehe xx

    http://ferdies-place.blogspot.co.uk/

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  21. Such a lovely post xx I have a lot of friends who are very supportive of my blog but my best friend hates the whole concept of blogging and to be honest wasn't very nice about it, but I told her that it's not a problem if she doesn't like it, and that she doesn't need to read it if she doesn't want to, I was okay with it xx
    www.emilybelleblogs.blogspot.com

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  22. I think I'm still at a sort of "in-between" point with my blog. I have my blog link on my instagram profile, but I don't often post any photos about it, linking to posts or anything like that. I guess because a lot of my followers there still come from my real life, and it's not that I'm ashamed I just don't think they'd be interested or care much haha.

    My boyfriend and my family know about my blog, but apart from that, it's not something I go and tell people but at the same time, if they found it and asked, I wouldn't hide it or be embarrassed. It's funny, actually, I only told my family about my blogging when I was meeting up with you, as I was explaining how we met! They thought it was really cool. The other day I said to my brother "I hit 100 followers on my blog!!" and he was like "That's awesome!". I think you get this idea in your head that people will think it's a bit strange, but when it comes down to it, it's not a big deal and I think I could definitely be more open to promoting my blog on instagram.

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  23. Oh my gosh, you can't imagine how much this post and the comments from others has touched me! I am brand new to blogging and YouTube. It is something I have been thinking about doing for a long, long time. The only people I have told are my husband, best friend and mother. I have been trying to work up the courage to tell at least some of my friends but I haven't been able to do it. Knowing that you and other bloggers have felt the same way makes me feel so much better! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings on this!

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  24. This is such an inspiring post! I'm still not entirely comfortable talking about my blog with others - every time I do I kind of feel like I need to explain myself, why I'm blogging, what's my "deal". It took me some time to actually start sharing my posts on social media and I still cringe a bit sometimes. Blogging confidence is a work in progress :)
    Thank you for sharing this!

    Marianna
    www.impressionblend.com

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  25. I love your post! I like blogging too and not a lot of my friends knows that I have a blog and a personnal Twitter, Tumblr. I think it's a world apart and not many understand why I remains so often on the computer. But I discovered so many things. Like you said, it's easly so meet people who loves the same things as you

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